Justin Baldoni Recollects Being Sexually Traumatized by Ex-Girlfriend: ‘Horrible, Horrible Relationship’

The director/actor appeared on Elizabeth Day’s How you can Fail podcast, the place he revealed he struggled for years after what he described as a poisonous relationship.

Baldoni mentioned he met a “stunning younger girl” at an Abercrombie & Fitch whereas in faculty at Lengthy Seaside State. He mentioned he fell “proper into this relationship as a result of I used to be attempting to fill a gap and a void the place I simply did not really feel like I used to be sufficient.”

“It was a really dangerous relationship, and I type of contorted myself and my persona to be what she wished,” mentioned the It Ends With Us star. “I had robust values and opinions and beliefs stepping into, and people had been very simply manipulated and reshaped to the purpose the place just a few months in I fully misplaced any sense of self that I had left. And it received very emotionally abusive.”

The 40-year-old star recalled that after experiencing “sexual trauma,” he felt conflicted.

“[I] wrestled with that trauma for the remainder of my life, as a result of in my head, a person cannot expertise sexual trauma by the hands of a lady. It is also the way in which that society has type of made me really feel that, you already know, it is solely the opposite means round, when in actuality it may well occur.”

The Jane the Virgin star — who has beforehand spoken about his Bahá’í religion — mentioned that he was taken “benefit” of after sharing that he “hoped to save lots of myself for marriage, and that is as detailed as I am going to get into the story.”

“There are strains that may be crossed and reap the benefits of anyone and to be manipulated. However I informed myself for 15 years after that that wasn’t truly what occurred and that I did need it and the entire issues that ladies have been feeling and experiencing for a very long time,” mentioned Baldoni.

The daddy of two mentioned that the concept of “acknowledging {that a} girl may reap the benefits of me” turned “an excessive amount of to carry for a lot of, a few years.”

He credited his therapist for serving to him begin his therapeutic journey.

“In the future my therapist requested me a quite simple query. She mentioned, ‘Justin, you do plenty of work on this area: If a lady informed you that story, what would you name it?’ And that is after I broke,” he mentioned, including that his “therapeutic” started at that time.

“That relationship ended with dishonest and infidelity. It was a horrible, horrible relationship,” mentioned Baldoni. “I left faculty, I moved to L.A., and it was truly because of that relationship ending that I ended up turning into an actor.”

Baldoni married his spouse Emily in 2013, and so they share two youngsters, Maiya, 9, and Maxwell, 7.

Throughout the interview, he additionally opened up in regards to the struggles he had whereas filming It Ends With Us, a narrative that offers with the ramifications of home violence by a husband (Baldoni) towards a lady (performed by Blake Vigorous).

Baldoni, who touted the significance of home violence consciousness all through the press tour and shared assets for these in search of assist, did inform Day that he pushed for a set off warning to be included within the movie, however mentioned the concept was shut down.

“I simply did not wish to re-traumatize nearly all of my viewers which is why I used to be advocating for a set off warning on the entrance and issues like that,” Baldoni defined. “However these are sure battles you possibly can’t all the time win.”

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